Co-parenting is difficult even under the best circumstances. When you’re dealing with a narcissist, things become exponentially more difficult. The very nature of a narcissist is the cornerstone of the issue because these individuals are rarely unable to think about anyone other than themselves.
Thankfully, you can do several things to make co-parenting with a narcissist easier. Making certain efforts may be beneficial to you and your children because it can reduce the stress you’re under.
Focus on the children
The children should always be at the heart of conversations. The narcissist may attempt to shift things to themselves, but this can’t ever happen. If the focus starts to move away from the kids, it may be best to take a step back and re-address the basic issue at hand.
Retain proof
Narcissists often try to twist the truth to suit their needs. Having proof of everything possible can help to prove your side of the matter, especially when the narcissist begins claiming untruths or partial truths. This can include everything from hanging on to receipts or keeping proof of conversations.
Resist engaging
Never engage with a narcissist. Narcissists get their power and good feelings from being in control and invoking emotions from others. Instead of allowing them to get to you, detach yourself from the situation. It may behoove you to utilize written communication or a third party to create a barrier between you and your ex.
Finally, it’s critical to have a comprehensive parenting plan that outlines everything related to how your co-parenting relationship is going to function on a practical level. Seeking legal guidance can help you to set up this plan appropriately.