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How parallel parenting benefits adults and children post-divorce

On Behalf of | Apr 13, 2023 | Family Law |

Each year, divorce is a reality for many married couples in Texas. Sometimes, these adults have children together. However, not all parents find it easy or even possible to get along with each other after a divorce. Fortunately, with a parallel parenting plan, divorcing adults can avoid making things strained or awkward for their shared children.

What is co-parenting?

There are a few ways for parents to handle child custody after divorcing. When both parents want to stay in a child’s life, they choose between co-parenting or parallel parenting. With co-parenting, both parents remain in communication with each other. Sometimes, co-parenting involves frequently discussing topics with your ex-spouse. Parallel parenting is a way for two adults to parent their children without interacting with each other.

If choosing a parallel parenting plan, both parents should create detailed plans regarding dates and times. The more both parents adhere to a specified schedule, the less they’ll have to communicate. It’s also essential to list backup plans that cover cancellations or emergencies ahead of time.

What makes parallel parenting beneficial?

First, adults in a parallel parenting plan don’t have to communicate with each other. This situation is best for spouses and children because it prevents unwanted or stressful arguments. Second, children who aren’t dealing with the trauma of their parents fighting typically perform well in school compared to other children of divorce. Third, studies also show that children with parallel parents have higher self-esteem than other children after their parents’ divorce.

Parallel parenting can be effective for parents who can’t get along but want the best for their children. This arrangement also means giving up control in some areas. However, this parenting plan can work well for parents willing to adopt it.