When you decided to divorce you probably knew it was not going to be easy. However, you may be finding it more difficult than you thought it would be. It’s understandable. Divorce is one of the most difficult things that a person can have to go through.
The following tips could help make things easier for you:
Seek compromise, not conflict
Some couples disagree about divorce matters for the sake of it, or to try and score a cheap wins over each other. If your spouse wants to keep the car, and you hate that car, then why fight them over it? Better to agree to them having it with you taking something else instead.
Look for things you can agree on rather than focusing on your differences or seeking goals or outcomes that are likely to be divisive.
Remember your relationship is different now
You’ve probably seen movies where arguing couples fall back into bed with each other and kiss and make up. If you have decided to divorce you need to forget all notion of such things. Your relationship has changed forever.
It’s natural to miss someone you spent so much time with but don’t let things get confused. If you are feeling down and need someone to talk to, reach out to a friend, not your soon-to-be ex. Keeping contact with them to a minimum is usually for the best, at least for some time.
Give yourself time to grieve
Some people plow themselves into their work so that they just collapse into bed at the end of the day with no time to feel sad or process what is happening. Yet you are going to have to face those feelings and grieve the loss of your relationship eventually. Putting some alone time aside can allow you to start processing everything that has happened, hopefully meaning you will emerge the other side sooner.
Schedule things that make you happy
What brings you joy? Programming some of these things into your calendar can do wonders during a divorce. Anything from a coffee with friends, to a morning walk to rekindling an old hobby could boost your mood, and put you in a better place to keep on progressing forward.
Finally, seeking appropriate legal guidance can help. The right team can guide you through the process and alleviate much of the uncertainty and stress you may be feeling right now.